Death created time

Last night I heard about the passing of a childhood friend’s infant son. Though we grew up together, went to preschool, primary school and high school together, I am not in touch with her (I don’t consider being friends on Facebook as being in touch). But that doesn’t make me feel any less heartbroken for her and her partner.

She is the first friend I remember having as a young child, in addition to TP.  We all lived within a block of each other growing up and all 3 our brothers are the same age and were childhood friends too.

I am not 100% sure of the details, but as I understand it the autopsy showed that her son had an incurable viral infection in his chest (though he did not show any symptoms of being ill) and passed away in his sleep. I can’t imagine the horror of putting your baby down to sleep and when you check on him, he is not breathing and it’s too late to do anything.

I am agnostic – and this awful news does nothing to help me decide whether or not God (as taught by the Christian faith) exists. I find it hard to believe that “things happen for a reason” or that there is “a plan” for us when I hear about awful news like this. I can’t believe or accept that these terrible things are all part of a bigger picture or that someone else is in control of my life/fate.

I heard this quote on the series True Detective. It’s pretty dark, but it sums up more or less how I feel right now:
“In eternity, where there is no time, nothing can grow. Nothing can become. Nothing changes. So Death created time to grow the things that it would kill.”

My thoughts and love are with her and her family, rest in peace little Kai.

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  1. So sorry to hear about the death of your friend’s baby. I hear exactly what you are saying.
    I have been having many thoughts lately about the paths we have to walk in life and things happen for a reason and we have to go through stuff to become who we are, have the children we have, but the one thing that can and never will make sense is my son’s death. I will never accept it nor that it happened for a reason, because there is no reason.
    Sending much love and strength to your friend and her family.

    • Tragedies happen daily, and I get that. Sometimes it’s bad timing, sometimes accidents happen. It’s part of life. But I simply can’t understand why?

      I can’t even imagine having to cope with the death of a child. It’s unnatural – goes against the law of nature. And having followed your online space, I still can’t imagine what it must be like to live with it daily.

      Thank you for your comment and know that you are in my thoughts too (more than you know!)

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