I finally took the leap and got my own domain. I’ve been thinking about it for some time and took the plunge last week. Have I mentioned how frustrated I get by technology? I don’t know all the lingo and have (painstakingly) worked through getting this site up. I managed up to a point and then I had to get an IT company involved. When the help forums started talking about moving folders, copying folders and ensuring that subfolders are backed up, I realised that I need help!
It ended well – and here we are! The only thing I still would have liked on my blog is a WordPress ‘follow’ button and a WordPress ‘Like’ button. Perhaps I’ll get there in the end.
Fertility treatment at Tygerberg Fertility Clinic
With the move to my own domain, I haven’t had the chance to post an update on where we are as far as the fertility treatment goes… So here it is!
After looking over our file and the information we had submitted by email, Dr Thabo Matsaseng gave us an appointment on Friday, 22 April. At this appointment KB would undergo a biopsy of the testes to ascertain whether or not there are viable ‘swimmers’.
On 22 April we arrived at Tygerberg Hospital around 9am and it was quiet. On our last visit there were people and children everywhere. When we asked why is was so quiet, we were told that they only do the biopsy procedures on Fridays and only book 3 per Friday.
Dr Matsaseng is such a nice guy. He introduced himself simply as Thabo (no “Dr” or formal reference). He was welcoming and casual, setting us at ease. He was especially considerate of how KB might be feeling, because guys are apparently a bit weirded out by another man… um… “manhandling” them. I don’t feel weird when I have a papsmear? Wait, I take that back, it almost sounds like I’m OK with it, I’m not. A papsmear is not pleasant, but I’m not weirded out by the fact that my GP (a woman) has done it a number of times.
Anyway, Dr M was lovely and cracked a couple of jokes. He introduced us to Gerhard, an intern, who would be assisting him. Dr M made small talk in a kind way, he was pretty much telling KB, “Look, I get it. It’s probably not cool for you that I’m a guy and you’re a guy, and here I am all up in your junk. And that’s OK. I’m here to help you.”
KB was an absolute trooper. He took it all in stride and remained calm and collected. I on the other hand struggled not to gag or freak out at the amount of injections and blood.
I’m not going to lie, the biopsy was quite traumatising for me (and for KB, of course). I was in the room when it was performed and had to look away a lot of the time. In a nutshell (Haha… see what I did there? Nut.Shell…?!) Anyway, there were numerous injections into the testes, a scalpel, surgical scissors, lots of sterile swabs, gauze, and sutures (+/- 7 or 8) involved. There were 3 (medical) people in the room: Dr M, Gerhard and a lovely lady from the lab waiting to whisk KB’s specimen to the lab for testing before freezing it asap, plus me.
Have a plan
When all was said and done, KB had to sign a form giving instruction on what to do with his specimen in the event of his death before we completed the procedure. You have a few choices:
- Destroy the specimen
- Donate it to science for research purposes
- Donate it to a fertility programme as a donor
- Cede it to your partner/spouse to decide
Tip: Before you start fertility treatment, give some thought to what you would like to do with your specimen. We were a bit blindsided by the question, but eventually decided that I should get the rights to it. So if KB dies, I get the rights to his sperm, if nothing else.
It’s looking good!
The lab tested the sample while KB was being stitched up – according to them, it’s a great sample! Thankfully it’s good, otherwise KB would have to undergo this procedure again if I understand it correctly. The next steps (when we are ready to proceed) are to contact Dr M on the first day of my cycle – then we get a script for hormone injections. The injections will over stimulate my ovaries to produce a number of eggs. They will harvest the eggs on a specific day in my cycle. They then use KB’s swimmers to manually fertilise my eggs and from there once the embryos are growing and viable, they decide how many to implant.
Truth? I am completely overwhelmed by what is still to come. The process is different to how we envisioned the whole thing going down, but it is what it is. I am also concerned about a multiple birth – which is not really something we’re aiming for (although my mom’s dad was a twin, so I assume it is actually possible to a small degree that I could bear twins through natural conception?). Dr M and Gerhard assured us that they do the embryo transfer as responsibly as possible to avoid a multiple pregnancy.
For now, we’ll have to wait until after my exams mid-June before we think about going ahead. I’m not sure if I am grateful for or disappointed by the delay?
(Update: I am currently pregnant with my daughter after successful fertility treatment with Dr Thabo Matsaseng at Tygerberg Fertility Clinic in May 2017. Read all my fertility-related posts here. And you’ll find all my pregnancy-related posts here.)
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