13 Weeks {pregnancy}

I’ve been dying to write on my blog and document my pregnancy too, but my studies, work and life in general have gotten in the way lately. I have at least 4 unpublished drafts that are half written, and I didn’t get around to writing my post about 5 things that caught me eye in the past month – but I’m not going to beat myself up about it, I’ll write if and when I have time. So, let’s get to it!

Tomorrow we will have reached the 14-week mark! Dr Thabo Matsaseng gave me a referral letter to give to my gynae of choice at our last visit with him. I saw my gynae, Dr B, for the first time 2 weeks ago since falling pregnant.

At our appointment with Dr B we had a scan and chatted about a number of things. Among other, we discussed the different types of testing for Down Syndrome. Dr B was really thorough in explaining everything to us.

As with most expectant parents, we hope and pray for a healthy baby. However, KB and I did have a discussion about what to do if the indicators come back as high chance of DS. I don’t judge others who make the decision to terminate, but I told KB it’s just not something I could do. He is on the same page as me – this is our child, regardless of any complications or special needs. (Honestly, even if he wasn’t on the same page, it wouldn’t change my mind).

At the scan, we heard the baby’s heartbeat for the first time! It literally sounds like a horse galloping… So fast and steady!

According to the pregnancy app I downloaded, baby is currently roughly the size of a peach. At this stage the baby is a minature version of a full-term baby. We’ll probably find out gender at the next scan at the end of the month, but I’m in no hurry to find out. Seems everyone else is excited to find out though. As I said in a previous post, I would have waited it out and had a surprise if it were soley up to me. But I do see the benefits of finding out ahead of the time. KB has offered to let Dr B tell him, but to keep it a secret from me and everyone else – but that doesn’t appeal to me at all.


I’m still feeling pretty good, although I’m not sleeping well. I’ve gone through a couple of nights in a row where I’ve been awake THE ENTIRE NIGHT. As you can imagine, this does not go down well. I’m super grumpy and short-tempered when it happens. I can deal with one night of insomnia, but when we start taking 2 or 3 nights in a row, then I lose my sh*t a little. Yes, I know what you’re all of you thinking “Just wait until the baby is here…” Whatevs. No sleep at all for 3 days in a row makes for a grumpy person, baby or no baby. Period.

Beside the lack of sleep, I have a mild ache near my tailbone. It’s more pronounced in specific positions or getting up or sitting in a certain way, but not enough to cause alarm. It’s just a constant reminder that my body is changing, things are moving around to accommodate another human. I am also at that awkward stage where I look like I’ve gotten a bit fat, as opposed to being pregnant, though this could also be because of all the potatoes? In form-fitting clothes, my tummy is pretty obvious, but in looser fitting clothes I just look a bit tubby. My pants either don’t fit at all or are starting to feel uncomfortable, depending on the material and whether or not it has a button and zip.

Food and cravings

My ridiculous craving for potatoes seems to have abated a bit and I’m finding chocolate appealing again. In cold weather I tend to want a warm meal, but as the weather warms up I’m enjoying making smoothies and eating plenty of fruit, yoghurt and salads again. Way less fattening than guzzling potatoes 24/7…

Buying all the things

KB and I finally went shopping for the baby for the first time last the weekend. We took advantage of the current winter sales, buying a few sizes up for next winter. I also got maternity leggings, which are hilarious as they come right up to under my boobs and halfway up my back.

Shopping for baby clothes also taught me something new about myself – I am not a fan of licensed merchandise. I don’t mind a picture or slogan, but the Disney and Marvel emblazoned stuff doesn’t appeal to me. And I assume it will get to a point where my kid will demand clothing emblazoned with their favourite super hero or Disney princess. Until then, I’m going to keep it as non-licensed as possible. (Obvs any lisenced gifts will be appreciated and accepted with love.)

We also bought a Graco camping cot. None of the mass-produced wooden/plywood cots appeal to me. The ones that I do like cost the equivalent of a one-week luxury holiday up the Graden Route. We also thought it’s more practical for our needs, as we do enjoy camping and we plan to continue going on many camping trips in future.

Another expensive item on our list is cloth nappies. I’ve been interested in using cloth nappies since before we fell pregnant. Although the initial cost seems quite high, it will end up costing us half of what disposables will cost us in the long run. Plus, it’s a more environmentally-friendly option. I read this blog post which claims an average child need 7,200 nappy changes. I’m not sure how accurate this is, but that is a ridiculous amount of disposable nappies if you ask me (and a ton of money). Again, I’m not judging. It’s a personal choice to use disposables or cloth, and I will inevitably use disposables at some point. But I am committed to cloth nappies because of the cost and the impact they have on the environment. The best thing of all? You can actually sell cloth nappies second-hand when you no longer need them (and make some of your money back). Or you can donate them to a NGO, baby sanctuary or orphanage. The prints they come in are absolutely adorable… you don’t even need to put pants on!

Cloth diaper

One of the cloth diapers I bought online from BamBoo Baby.




  1. She’s alive! Nicky is alive! LOL. Been wondering when you’d update us! Glad you’re feeling kinda good but yeah, the no-sleep thing is horrible. I hope it passes quickly.

    • Lol… Hi Thandi! Sorry to keep you waiting! I must be honest, I am surprised by how good I’ve been feeling for the most part and I’m so grateful to be able to enjoy being pregnant after the looong journey to get here (absolutely worth the lack of sleep – even I it means I’m tired and cranky sometimes). x

  2. Hi Nicky,
    Just found your blog today while having one of those days when one thinks the positive never arrives. So glad that first read about your pregnancy :):) then went to understand a bit more your journey. Your baby bump looks amazing :).
    I just emailed Tygerberg fertility unit, hope they will get back to me soon, how long does it normally take to get a feedback?
    I am the one with the fertility problem, I do not ovulate on my own, due to my PCOS( policystic ovarian syndrom), I am hoping Dr Thabo can take our case, I wanna go directly to IVF.

    • Hi Eunice! Thank you for your lovely words – I’m glad you found my blog and that it gave you some positive news! When I first contacted Tygerberg they answered my enquiry quite quickly. But they were full and weren’t taki g on any new cases at the time and I had to wait a couple of months before I got an appointment. But once I had the appointment things went ahead quite quickly. If they take your case, it depends on how many patients are currently in a fertility cycle befor you’ll actually get to start because there are only a limited number of slots available in the embryo incubators. I guess how busy the team are will also impact how fast you’ll get a response from them. Not a very direct answer, I know – but you have to start somewhere 🙂 and then have faith in the process and be patient. I wish you everything of the best and hope you have a positive outcome! x

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